Oppressive Behaviors List

We believe our process will be better in general, and the expulsion process will be better in particular, if everyone is aware of the following list of oppressive behaviors, developed in feminist process organizations (with one addition which arises from our own experience in this group). We can all pay attention to ourselves and where/when we engage in these behaviors. Challengers can reference this list of behaviors or not; however, repeated and consistent incidences of these behaviors by a member are likely to affect at least one of the four consent principles.

* INTERRUPTING people who are speaking.
* SPEAKING ON EVERY SUBJECT.  We need not share every idea we have, at least not with the whole group.
* PUTTING OTHERS DOWN.
* HOGGING THE SHOW. Talking too much, too long and too loud.
* PROBLEM SOLVER. Continually giving the answer or solution  before others have and much chance to contribute.
* SPEAKING IN CAPITAL LETTERS. Giving one’s own solution or opinions as the final word on the subject, often aggravated  by tone of voice and body posture.
* DEFENSIVENESS. Responding to every contrary opinion as though it were a personal attack.
* NITPICKING. Pointing out minor flaws in statements of others and stating the exception  to every generality.
* RESTATING, especially what has just been said by a nondominant person.
* ATTENTION SEEKING. Using all sorts of dramatics to get the spotlight.
* TASK AND CONTENT FOCUS to the exclusion of nurturing individuals or the group through attention to process and form.
* RECORDING/TRACKING. Making a video, audio, or other electronically tracked record of a meeting without the prior consent of those present.
* PUTDOWNS AND ONE-UPMANSHIP. “I used to believe that, but now…” or “How can you possibly say that?”
* NEGATIVISM. Finding something wrong or problematical in everything.
* FOCUS TRANSFER. Transferring the focus of the discussion to one ‘ s own pet issues in order to give one’s own pet raps.
* RESIDUAL OFFICE HOLDER. Hanging on to formal powerful positions.
* SELF-LISTENING. Formulating a response after the first few sentences, not listening to anything from that point on and leaping in at the first pause.
* INFLEXIBILITY AND DOGMATISM. Taking a last stand for one’s position on even minor items.
* CONDESCENSION AND PATERNALISM . “Now, do any women have something  to add?”
* BEING “ON THE MAKE.” Using sexuality to manipulate people.
* RUNNING THE SHOW. Continually taking charge of tasks  before others have a chance  to volunteer.
* PACKRAT-ITIS. Protectively storing key group information for one’s own use and benefit.
* SPEAKING FOR OTHERS ” A lot of us think…” or ” What so and so really meant was…”